What is Sage Therapy Room?
At Sage Therapy Room, I offer confidential, integrative therapy focused on helping you get to where you want to be.
Sage Therapy Room was created to help people feel more at home in their lives. This intention has been a quiet but consistent thread throughout my life. For a long time, I described it simply as wanting to make people’s lives easier. In my first career as a project manager, this showed up in practical ways: streamlining processes, creating efficiencies, and supporting colleagues and clients by reducing unnecessary complexity.
Over time, this idea of “ease” deepened into an understanding of happiness. When speaking to managers, I would often say: “Happier people work better.” For me, this reflected a deeper belief: we only get this one life, and we should do what we can to support ourselves and others in experiencing it fully.
Happiness is meaningful, but it is also transient, like all emotions. If we aim for constant happiness, we are likely to be disappointed. Struggle is inevitable, and often our greatest growth comes from our hardest moments. As it is expressed in the Qur’an: “With hardship comes ease.”
This realisation eventually brought me to the concept of home. Home is an ancient word, believed to come from a verb meaning to settle or dwell. That sense of being settled is what I aim to help others cultivate: a grounded sense that whatever arises can be met because you can rely on yourself.
Settled can sometimes suggest low energy or lack of motivation. I see it differently. For me, it is like a turtle: living a long, rich life, experiencing many things, and always able to return to the safety of her shell, her home.
Feeling settled is an internal experience, but its impact is often felt most clearly in how we meet the challenges of everyday life.
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Feeling Settled During External Challenges
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Feeling settled does not directly change external circumstances, but it can change how you experience them and how you show up. When you feel at home in yourself, you can respond in ways that align with your values and leave you feeling proud.
For example, imagine receiving difficult feedback at work. Without a sense of settledness, this can lead to rumination, seeking reassurance from others, or distracting yourself. It may feel like a judgment of who you are.
With a sense of settledness, the same feedback may still be uncomfortable, but it is just feedback on one aspect of your work. You are less likely to ruminate or seek counteracting reassurance. You can trust that you did all you could within the circumstances, and that this is simply one person’s perspective.
Imagine the comfort in that.
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Feeling Settled During Internal Challenges
Internal difficulties can lead us to villainise parts of ourselves. We may hate our anxiety, depression, or OCD, and with good reason, as these experiences can make life feel deeply challenging. This feeling can spread, affecting how we speak to ourselves, care for ourselves, and relate to others.
For example, imagine someone living with anxiety. It can hover like a cloud, leading to self-criticism, avoidance of anxiety inducing situations, and shame.
With a sense of settledness, the anxiety is still present, but it can be recognised as a feeling. From this place, anxiety can be met with compassion, and understood as a companion that joins us in some situations but not others.
Over time, it may even be understood as an attempt to protect us. From this perspective, we can respond with flexibility, and when helpful, introduce alternative ways of coping.
Finding Your Sense of Home
Feeling settled will not solve every problem or change who you are. Our inner homes are like real homes. Some have leaks, some have creaking pipes, but however your home presents, it is still your home.
By building an understanding of your home, that sense of settledness can grow, allowing you to move through life with greater self-trust and assurance, and to address life’s difficulties with clarity, compassion and resilience. This is what Sage Therapy Room supports: helping you build that inner sense of home so that, whatever life brings, you know you can navigate it.
Interested in working together or have any questions? I would love to hear from you, please reach out.
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